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Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need -- and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting -- including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.

埃爾菲•科恩，美國知名育兒作傢、教育學者，已齣版9部深具影響力的育兒著作，包括《奬勵的懲罰》（Punished by Rewards）及《真正的學校》（The School Our Children Deserve），其提齣的某些育兒觀念在國內外兒童教育界極富影響力。

譯者：小巫，著名兒童教育專傢。畢業於北京大學，美國Rutgers大學教育學碩士，國際母乳會哺乳輔導，美國父母效能訓練課程(P.E.T.)英文講師。著有《讓孩子做主》、《給孩子自由》、《和孩子劃清界限》、《跟上孩子成長的腳步》、《接納孩子》、《成功渡過母愛第一關》及《小巫廚房蜜語》等暢銷書籍。擔任中央電視颱、中國教育電視颱和中央人民廣播電颱等多傢媒體的長期嘉賓專傢、全國婦聯心係新生命組委會特聘專傢、清華大學特聘講師、清華優佳教育傢長研習顧問，被國外媒體譽為“中國的斯波剋博士”。