图书标签: 社会学 爱情 英文原版 美国 non-fiction 约会 2016 文化
发表于2024-11-10
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“Does anyone date anymore?” Today, the authorities tell us that courtship is in crisis. But when Moira Weigel dives into the history of sex and romance in modern America, she discovers that authorities have always said this. Ever since young men and women started to go out together, older generations have scolded them: That’s not the way to find true love. The first women who made dates with strangers were often arrested for prostitution; long before “hookup culture,” there were “petting parties”; before parents worried about cell phone apps, they fretted about joyrides and “parking.” Dating is always dying. But this does not mean that love is dead. It simply changes with the economy. Dating is, and always has been, tied to work.
Lines like “I’ll pick you up at six” made sense at a time when people had jobs that started and ended at fixed hours. But in an age of contract work and flextime, many of us have become sexual freelancers, more likely to text a partner “u still up?” Weaving together over one hundred years of history with scenes from the contemporary landscape, Labor of Love offers a fresh feminist perspective on how we came to date the ways we do. This isn't a guide to “getting the guy.” There are no ridiculous “rules” to follow. Instead, Weigel helps us understand how looking for love shapes who we are―and hopefully leads us closer to the happy ending that dating promises.
Moira Weigel was born in Brooklyn. Her writing has appeared in The Guardian, The Nation, The New Republic, n+1, and The New Inquiry, among other publications, and she is currently completing a PhD in Comparative Literature at Yale University. After years of first-person research on dating, she is off the market. Labor of Love is her first book.
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评分以为会是老套的鸡汤,结果发现作者很良心,从美国dating culture的历史和起源讲起,对为什么现在hook up文化盛行,为什么感情常有“值得”“不值得”这样的衡量词汇或标准,以及人们内心深处其实需要的是什么有了更深的理解。其中也包括了对LGBT社群,黑人社群的研究。但是好像没有说很多亚裔社群和拉美社群。总的来说对理解dating culture还是很有帮助,超出了我的预期。
评分在助教的课上听到老师提起的reference,Sociological perspective的dating研究。约会从来都不是孤立的,而是和社会经济fabric交织在一起的。约会不是个人问题,而是一个社会议题。在dating market上身为女性要自知不要被商品化的rhetoric自我绑架,要先清楚了解rules再决定要不要regulated by rules.
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