UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING Moving from Rewards and Pu pdf epub mobi txt 電子書 下載2025
Alfie Kohn is the author of nine previous books, including Punished by Rewards and The Schools Our Children Deserve, that have helped to shape the thinking of parents and educators across the country and abroad. He lectures widely and lives (actually) with his family in the Boston are and (virtually) at www.alfiekohn.org.
- 育兒
- Parenting
- 英文原版
- 教育
- 心理學
- 教育理念
- Education
- 傢庭
Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need - and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that quetion are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.
One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.
More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
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有条件养育下成长的我，如何无条件养育自己的孩子？ 这是我从小就在思考的问题，当然彼时还不晓得「有条件」「无条件」的概念，只是困惑，「幼时在暴烈环境下幸存的人，未来可能对自己的孩子温柔以待吗？」听闻过太多不幸的宿命循环，对这个问题自然格外观照。 接触到「无条件...
評分最近看了两本教育方面的书，《阅读的力量》和《无条件养育》。第一本是讲自由、自愿的阅读的好处，拖泥带水的几百页，读完就记得这个结论了。 《无条件养育》倒是在很大程度上与我之前的想法冲突很大。 论坛里面经常有父母讨论如何教育孩子的，“那天终于忍不住揍了他一顿”...
評分最近看了两本教育方面的书，《阅读的力量》和《无条件养育》。第一本是讲自由、自愿的阅读的好处，拖泥带水的几百页，读完就记得这个结论了。 《无条件养育》倒是在很大程度上与我之前的想法冲突很大。 论坛里面经常有父母讨论如何教育孩子的，“那天终于忍不住揍了他一顿”...
評分很多时候我们在和孩子相处过程中依靠的是一种惯性，依靠着是自己身上从父辈身上承袭下的经验；却很少静下来反思一下这些方式都是对的吗？特别很多时候我们在生活的轨道上疲于应付，孩子往往成了导致情绪崩溃的最后一根稻草。我们会咆哮，会愤怒，会后悔，会懊恼，但下次周而复...
評分做了2年多爸爸以后，我越来越质疑自己对孩子的教育理念，正是起于感觉到自己频繁使用“胡萝卜+大棒” 。举个例子，每天早上孩子刷牙洗脸是件很折磨的事情，明明3分钟就可以完成的，总要托个半小时。时间来得及时还好，早上如果要上课或者出去，就很容易起冲突。 我之前的解决方...
用戶評價
車軲轆話翻來倒去的說，真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
评分One of the best parenting books I've ever read. Answered most of my questions regarding discipline. I have changed my old practices and need to revise my previous writings.
评分一，作為父母，無條件地愛孩子，是由於ta是你的孩子，而不是由於ta做瞭哪些可以讓你自豪的事。這種無條件的愛，既不是溺愛，也不是對你的孩子市恩市義（所謂養育之恩，即屬市恩市義）。二，做齣恰當決定的能力需要從幼年一點點培養、曆練，並讓孩子瞭解每一項決定都與責任的承擔有關。學習做齣恰當決定的途徑，恰恰是通過做決定本身，而非通過聽從他人指導。三，要有勇氣、有能力麵對和質疑自己的養育經曆以及被養育的經曆。是的，人通常不願意質疑自己、質疑自己親近的人，尤其是自己父母。但誰都不是完人，包括你和你父母，所以，隻要用心，一定會找到可以改進的地方，使自己變得更好並嘗試做更好的父母。
评分車軲轆話翻來倒去的說，真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
评分One of the best parenting books I've ever read. Answered most of my questions regarding discipline. I have changed my old practices and need to revise my previous writings.
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