Alice Miller, PhD in philosophy, psychology and sociology, as well as a researcher on childhood, is the author of 13 books, translated into thirty languages.
Out of 192 members of the United Nations, only 19 have so far forbidden corporal punishment of children.
The common bond unifying the three studies in this volume is a concern with the factors operative in loss of the self and the routes leading towards the achievement of true identity. "The Drama of the Gifted Child" (and "gifted" here means "sensitive", "aware") has its roots in an intuitive apprehension of the parents' needs by the child at a very early stage. The child adapts to those needs by learning not to feel its most intense feelings, once it has realized that those feelings are considered undesirable. Although these "prohibited" feelings cannot always be avoided at a later stage, they remain split off; this means that the most vital part of the true self is not integrated into the personality. The result is emotional insecurity and impoverishment (loss of self), either expressed in the form of depression or fended off via grandiosity. The examples cited sensitize us to the mute, inarticulate suffering of the child and help us to penetrate the idealizations serving to conceal that suffering. It also opens our eyes to the tragedy of the parents; their unavailability and inaccessibility prove to be the fruit of their availability as children.
记得心理学家总结过,摧毁一个孩子很简单,其中有六条是: 第一步,让她感受不到爱。 第二步,让她感觉不到理解。 第三步,让她感觉不到尊重。 第四步,让她放弃自己的诉求,无条件接受成人的喜怒哀乐悲思苦。 第五步,让她过早地卷入成人的游戏规则之中。 第六步,一次次撒谎...
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评分民科、民哲群体里其实不乏才思聪慧、超凡脱俗之辈,他们的问题在于,他们意识层面局限偏隘的固执己见使自己无法真正融入人类集体意识这个共同体(无法自省自察),最终只会成为大树根系周围奇形怪状的渺小异株。。。得了“天才”的病,却不可能有“天才”的命,最终只会落得一...
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