" Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever? Can we want what we already have? Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster? Does good intimacy always make for good sex? " Ether Perel takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. In her twenty years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on? In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms. While "Mating in Captivity "shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.

【埃絲特•佩瑞爾（Esther Perel)】

婚戀心理谘詢師、《紐約時報》暢銷書作傢，被認為是現代親密關係領域最具洞察力和獨創見解的人。她精通9門語言，在紐約市從事谘詢業務，擁有35年的從業經驗，並為全球財富500強企業擔任組織顧問。她著名的TED演講點擊量超2800萬，國際暢銷書《親密陷阱：愛、欲望與平衡藝術》被翻譯成近30種語言，成為全球現象級讀物。她的新書《危險關係：愛、背叛與修復之路》同樣登上瞭《紐約時報》暢銷書榜。埃絲特也是獲奬播客“我們從哪裏開始”的執行製片人和主持人。她的新播客“工作怎麼樣？”專注於職場動力，已於2019年鞦季上綫。