Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?
Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right—a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong.
Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception—how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.
Carol Tavris is a social psychologist, writer, and lecturer whose goal is to promote psychological science and critical thinking in improving our lives. She is coauthor, with Elliot Aronson, of "Mistakes Were Made (But Not by ME): Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts," and, with Avrum Bluming, the forthcoming "Estrogen Matters." Her other major books include the landmark "Anger: The misunderstood emotion," a book well known for its critical look at unvalidated notions about the inevitability of anger and the need to "ventilate" it, and how anger can best be expressed constructively. She is also author of the award-winning "The Mismeasure of Woman: Why women are not the better sex, the inferior sex, or the opposite sex," and coauthor of two widely used textbooks, with Carole Wade, for introductory psychology. She has written hundreds of essays and book reviews on topics in psychological science, and is a highly regarded lecturer who has spoken to groups around the world, from New Zealand to Finland. She is a Fellow of the Association for Psychological Science and the Los Angeles Institute for the Humanities.
Elliot Aronson is a social psychologist and Professor Emeritus at the University of California at Santa Cruz and Distinguished Visiting Professor at Stanford University. He has previously taught at Harvard, the University of Texas and the University of Minnesota. As a researcher, he is best known for his groundbreaking research on social influence and persuasion as well as for the invention of the jigsaw classroom (a strategy for reducing prejudice in public schools).
He has written 22 books including The Social Animal, Age of Propaganda (with Anthony Pratkanis), Nobody Left to Hate, The Adventures of Ruthie and a Little Boy Named Grandpa (with his 7-year-oldgranddaughter, Ruth Aronson, and Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me (with Carol Tavris).
Aronson is the only person in the 120-year history of the American Psychological Association to have received all three of its highest awards: For Distinguished Research, Distinguished Teaching, and Distinguished Writing. In 1981, he was named Professor of the Year by the Council for the Advancement and Support of Education.
Among his other awards are the Gordon Allport prize for his contributions to inter-racial harmony and the William James Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Psychological Science (2007). Recently, his peers named him as one of the 100 most influential psychologists of the 20th Century.
He was elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences and
has served as President of the Society of Personality and Social Psychology as well as President of the Western Psychological Association.
不知道是幸运还是不幸,我看了这本书。我那些认识失调再难调节。 虽然那些自我欺骗虽然仍然起作用,不过已经不太好使,对于本来可以自然接受的事实,现在却要想想,再想想,乃至今天也没有定论。 或许,我应该忘了这本书。 认知上的矛盾,是让人痛苦的一件事,大概只有把自己...
评分关键词:认知失调 自我辩护 记忆再造 闭合式怪圈 此书通过观点和事证讲述人们如何稍有松弛即被对自身头脑的良好感觉所绑架,从而往世界输出错谬的过程及机制。这种现象是如此的普遍,我们可以在日常生活中一遍遍的目睹,而此书通过事实告诉我们,没有人能够逃脱这种可能性。 ...
评分错了,怎么办? 中国有句话,叫做“越描越黑”。说的是,犯错后越是争辩,效果越差。 《错不在我》分析了人犯错后,天然地倾向于自我辩护。 自我辩护的原动力,是认知相符。大脑想法、态度、信念、意见,与客观事实一致,就会出现愉快的情绪。如果不一致,就会出现“认知失调”...
评分从这本书就可以找到中国文化认为匪夷所思现象的线索。 死不认错--是家长制,集权主义的惯用手段,但几千年来中国人已经丧失了辨识能力(同时每个人自身已经染上了这种习气,有意无意地这样行事)。 西方用理性思维能力剖析这用恶,用民主、法制制衡这种恶。 这本书是需要中国大...
评分不知道是幸运还是不幸,我看了这本书。我那些认识失调再难调节。 虽然那些自我欺骗虽然仍然起作用,不过已经不太好使,对于本来可以自然接受的事实,现在却要想想,再想想,乃至今天也没有定论。 或许,我应该忘了这本书。 认知上的矛盾,是让人痛苦的一件事,大概只有把自己...
不是简单的因果关系
评分不如叫做#self-justification的实例大全#…后面几章说来说去都是一个意思…换了不同方面的例子而已…有点啰嗦和冗长…没有看到足够多的实验研究不开心…还有…把所有的问题都归结为self-justification 是不是也太简单化了…#两个人最初的选择也许都是迷迷糊糊地做出的,然后一步一步因为self-justification而从金字塔尖端走下,最后变成完全不同的两个人
评分原本希望这本书讲更多的关于cognitive dissonance的,全书还是太浅,只讲到sefl-justification部分,例子太话唠。大约读第一章和最后一章即可。
评分不是简单的因果关系
评分不如叫做#self-justification的实例大全#…后面几章说来说去都是一个意思…换了不同方面的例子而已…有点啰嗦和冗长…没有看到足够多的实验研究不开心…还有…把所有的问题都归结为self-justification 是不是也太简单化了…#两个人最初的选择也许都是迷迷糊糊地做出的,然后一步一步因为self-justification而从金字塔尖端走下,最后变成完全不同的两个人
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