We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In "Attached," Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
*Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
*Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
*Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and for the past few years Amir has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia under the mentorship of Nobel Prize Laureate Eric Kandel. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it is in this context, while working with mothers and children in a therapeutic nursery, that he first discovered the power of attachment theory. His clinical work together with his deep understanding of the brain from a neuroscientist's perspective contribute to his appreciation of attachment theory and its remarkable effectiveness in helping to heal patients. Amir lives in New York City. Rachel Heller, M.A. studied at Columbia University with some of the most prominent scholars in the field of social psychology. She now works with families and couples as a psychologist in private practice. Rachel lives in Israel.
这书真的很好。这本书读到一半的时候,我心里就已经有了这样一个判断。这个判断不是武断,而是果断。当刚刚拿到这本书的时候,我并没有认为此书会有多么出色,也对本书的题材不是特别感兴趣。因为作为一个已婚人士,我自认为过得还算幸福,没有必要去阅读此类有关两性情感话题...
评分 评分最开始想读这本书的动机是看了北大自杀妹子和某渣男的新闻。很多人把这个悲剧诠释成 pua,但我总觉得没有这么简单,想为这种令人迷惑的关系找一个解释。但老实说,这本书更像读者文摘和教人谈恋爱的微信公众号的结合版。书里面有大量小明和小红的恋爱故事,然后作者尝试用自己...
评分为什么年龄这么大了还找不到合适的对象?难道是自己没有魅力吗?难道是自己很差劲,其实都不一定是真正的原因。还是性格问题啊。 看了这本书,觉得自己是回避型的依恋风格,但是上一段感情则是焦虑性的依恋的风格。夏斌也是回避型的。怪不得我们不能在一起太痛苦了。如何去寻找...
评分不同意作者的分类。焦虑型和回避型在同一个人身上是可以切换的,关键就看你多在乎对方了。
评分了解了不同依恋类型、与不兼容的依恋类型爱人相处的办法。目前来说自己是安全型,要更加妥帖地照顾到焦虑型爱人的特点,去confirm和respond。10/2019在barnes and noble读完。
评分可以skim through的一本书 用自己的经历和书上的道理cross reference 还蛮豁然开朗的。不过感情这回事终究知难行易 但清楚意识到自己是secure型还挺增加自信心&感恩爸妈的。但像李银河老师所说 爱情终究还是小概率幸运事件 那作为一个hopeless romantic 只能尽量提升自我/认清自己 当那个人出现的时候 不至于因为自己的低情商和personal mess而毁了珍贵的亲密关系
评分Audiobook下载:百度云网盘。"I'm an avoidant"
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