We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In "Attached," Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
*Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
*Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
*Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and for the past few years Amir has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia under the mentorship of Nobel Prize Laureate Eric Kandel. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it is in this context, while working with mothers and children in a therapeutic nursery, that he first discovered the power of attachment theory. His clinical work together with his deep understanding of the brain from a neuroscientist's perspective contribute to his appreciation of attachment theory and its remarkable effectiveness in helping to heal patients. Amir lives in New York City. Rachel Heller, M.A. studied at Columbia University with some of the most prominent scholars in the field of social psychology. She now works with families and couples as a psychologist in private practice. Rachel lives in Israel.
这是一本很好的恋爱心理学书,强烈建议大家读一下,本书讲解了三种恋爱风格,分析细致到位,对恋爱或将恋爱的人们有很好的指导作用,读这本书后对自己和恋人的感情会有更好的理解,也有利于我们更好的把握爱情,生活的更加幸福快乐!!
评分爱是感觉。 爱是荷尔蒙,你吸引我,我吸引他。 爱无理性可言,一切仿佛是命,或者债。 作为一个紊乱型(回避+焦虑)人格,对于爱情的体会总是纷纷乱乱,毫无逻辑,既焦虑又回避,读完本书,顿时醍醐灌顶。 Part 1 依恋类型 恋爱依恋类型,不是套路,是从心理学...
评分我是典型的焦虑型,可笑的是我不断地遇见回避型的恋人。我一直以为我是不正常的,于是找来各种各样的心理书籍甚至寻求宗教信仰,以求安抚我那破碎的心,使之归于平静。而此书轻易的将所有的问题解决。若能够在年轻时遇见它,我的人生也许会重写吧。 恋爱就是要亲密,而不是彼...
评分 评分“他不秒回信息,我就感觉被抛弃了。” ”我越黏他,他就跑得越远。” “他总是对我忽冷忽热,若即若离。” ”我总担心分手后,就再也没有人会爱上我。” 在日常生活中,我们都听身边的人说过类似的话,自己可能也遇过类似的问题。爱情就是这样,让人迷恋又让人迷惑。他到底怎...
不同意作者的分类。焦虑型和回避型在同一个人身上是可以切换的,关键就看你多在乎对方了。
评分了解了不同依恋类型、与不兼容的依恋类型爱人相处的办法。目前来说自己是安全型,要更加妥帖地照顾到焦虑型爱人的特点,去confirm和respond。10/2019在barnes and noble读完。
评分这书对以前的我估计挺有帮助的,不过现在听下来觉得没什么新知识。
评分life changing 实用且系统地讲了“是什么”、“为什么”、“怎么办”,如果能早点看到这本书是不是就能避开坑呢?未必啊,纸上得来终觉浅,和看完《亲密关系》的感受是一样的…【税后六块六在猫猫书店买的,挑灯夜读一周看完,大概是近些年最实惠的一笔投资,一定会梳理一下笔记的~
评分life changing 实用且系统地讲了“是什么”、“为什么”、“怎么办”,如果能早点看到这本书是不是就能避开坑呢?未必啊,纸上得来终觉浅,和看完《亲密关系》的感受是一样的…【税后六块六在猫猫书店买的,挑灯夜读一周看完,大概是近些年最实惠的一笔投资,一定会梳理一下笔记的~
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