圖書標籤: 心理學 心理 英文原版 原生傢庭 社會學 女性
发表于2024-11-22
Will I Ever Be Good Enough? pdf epub mobi txt 電子書 下載 2024
The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery. An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration. Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the control you want. Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to: (1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life
(2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage
(3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter. Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
作者卡瑞爾·麥剋布萊德,美國注冊婚姻和傢庭治療學傢,已有28年的心理谘詢實踐經驗,是治療傢庭問題方麵的專傢。近十幾年裏,麥剋布萊德博士主要從事有關自戀傢長對孩子影響的研究,已經成功解決瞭許多此類案例。麥剋布萊德博士還在創傷、性虐待、傢庭暴力、離婚、重組傢庭、婚姻和傢庭治療方麵擁有廣泛經驗,她專長EMDR創傷治療、以及涉及焦慮、憂鬱和人生轉摺的個體適應治療。
譯者於玲娜,浙江大學心理學碩士,主攻心理語言學,業餘愛好文學、哲學和藝術。曾用筆名“羅豫”在《南方都市報》、《廣州日報》、《新京報》等媒體上發錶書評十餘萬字。
看的第一本關於母女關係的書 每天感受著肚子裏寶寶 第一次學習parenting 作者根據自己多年臨床經驗描述瞭一段完整的therapy過程 驚訝於narcissistic mother對於孩子造成的陰影 最喜歡最後一章對於parenting的總結 比如教會孩子authenticity/accountability/empathy等等
評分有關女兒的心態(比如為什麼總覺得自己不夠好)這部分以及覺察並體驗自己的「感受」為什麼很重要,作者要是能說得再詳細一些就好瞭。承認對方此刻很生氣能平息對方的憤怒。哀悼(grieve/grief)五步驟:denial => anger => bargaining => depression => acceptance.
評分A very nice book to read, truly useful for me, mother of two kids under 10 year old. I am not sure if I am the kind of mother as described in the book. But I did learn a lot in learning how to be a better mother for my children. Be honest, open-minded and always on way to improve myself. Refuse to stay in the family cycle , find my the real self
評分原來我過去小十年裏所受痛苦的根源竟如此簡單直白,然而這根源的影響是如此巨大以至於自愈之路看起來遙遙無期。書中關於父親的一章非常新穎,往往一個自戀的母親的傢庭都是圍繞母親的人格,為瞭滿足母親的情感需求構建起來的。過去是我的一部分,但卻不是我的全部定義,永遠記得自己擁有選擇的權力並為之付齣努力。
評分多謝款待 好難改 會努力的:(
关于自恋母亲的这个话题,对许多人来说可能有点不可思议。因为无论是在中国还是西方世界的文化传统中,母亲这个词都是被极度神圣化的。我们自幼接受对母爱的理想化赞美,内心早已建立了伟大母爱的信念。所以,我们在读本书中所描述的“自恋母亲对孩子造成的种种伤害和痛苦”时...
評分这本书很早就看过一遍了,但它于我,是常读常新。每次对母亲的感情有所困惑,我都会拿出来再读一遍。也许我就是喜欢这个书名,母爱的羁绊,这书名看得人很痛快,让被神话了的母爱去一边吧,让什么仁慈伟大去一边儿吧,世上的感情,爱到极致一定有恨。 面对妈妈我有太多的奇葩...
評分短评:我们的基因会遗传父母,情感也会像基因一样代代遗传。 于是你就看到很多不喜欢父母教育方式、年少就一直缺乏母爱的人其实都不了解自己,不敢肯定自己,生活在枷锁般,甚至自己为人母时也会恐慌无助。一方面她们想摆脱母亲曾经给她们的痛苦体验,却在实际育儿中举手投足间...
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