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发表于2025-01-27
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This is the groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality and why it leads to shame over one's identity, and how to overcome it - now expanded and fully updated. Today's gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, "Are we really better off?" Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs' own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, "The Velvet Rage" passionately describes the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behaviour. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural and political changes, "The Velvet Rage" is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.
Alan Downs, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice located in Beverly Hills, California. He is the author of seven previous books and continues to write and hold workshops across the United States. He is actively involved in dialectical behavior therapy and is a member of the Beverly Hills DBT Team. Dr. Downs is the former CEO of Michael's House Treatment Center where he currently holds weekend workshops for families of those struggling with addictions. His current book, THE VELVET RAGE, has been acclaimed as "groundbreaking" for the gay male community. Dr. Downs has been a guest on many media programs including, THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW, TODAY SHOW, and NPR's MORNING EDITION.
断断续续看了快两周,我觉得可以称为Gay Bible了,shame is all about how to be a true man。
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评分一本关于“how to be authentic and true to yourself”的工具书,可是在对于由性取向所带来的shame和rage的描述和观察上还是没能避免刻板印象的倾向。性取向只是“我是谁”的一部分,对不同的人的影响可大也可小。作为txl,对于自己身份的认同感以及如何面对/处理和家里的关系是一段感情是否能长远的关键,这也和作者不断强调的authenticity不谋而合,健康和长久的恋爱关系,一定是需要两个“健全”的人的相互维系,缺一不可。
评分作者那套shame和validation的理论其实不止是gay men,适用于所有人。身边就有活生生的例子,做的一切都是要得到validation,不是因为自己喜欢,而是无意义的作秀,得不到validation就气急败坏;因为shame而一定要在别的方面得到补偿;敏感自卑,一点小事就觉得别人侮辱自己。 反思自己有时候也会把个人全部的价值建筑在别人的validation上
评分一本关于“how to be authentic and true to yourself”的工具书,可是在对于由性取向所带来的shame和rage的描述和观察上还是没能避免刻板印象的倾向。性取向只是“我是谁”的一部分,对不同的人的影响可大也可小。作为txl,对于自己身份的认同感以及如何面对/处理和家里的关系是一段感情是否能长远的关键,这也和作者不断强调的authenticity不谋而合,健康和长久的恋爱关系,一定是需要两个“健全”的人的相互维系,缺一不可。
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The Velvet Rage pdf epub mobi txt 电子书 下载 2025