The Golden Rule may well be the most widely known<br >combination of eleven words in the English language: "Do<br >unto others as you would have them do unto you." Un-<br >fortunately， where communication between the sexes is<br >concerned， this revered principle steers us more in the<br >direction of conflict and misunderstanding than toward<br >harmony and rapport. It s now well-established that on<br >the whole， men and women differ in communication hab-<br >its， expectations， and preferences. When we communicate<br >with the opposite sex the way we like others to commu-<br > nicate with us--as most of us instinctively do--we re often<br > setting the stage for misinterpretation and frustration. This<br > book provides practical， situational advice and specific<br > strategies that produce more satisfying results， even when<br > only one communication partner uses them. We offer sen-<br > sible solutions for common difficulties in getting through<br > at home， at work， and with friends， dates， ~trid relatives.<br > Wherever possible， we ve briefly indicated data from<br > studies and surveys that delineate gender differences in<br > communication. We see most of these differences as stem-<br >i ruing not from genes or hormones but from divergent ways<br > in which males and females are encouraged to behave as<br >~!~: children and rewarded as adults. As you read， please re-<br >L<br >