ACKNOWLEDGMENTS<br >ny thirty-fifth birthday， my friend and mentor Maurice Fried-<br >gave me a book he wrote called A Dialogue with Hasidic<br >;. His inscription on the cover page read， "Everyone should<br >rye carefully what way his heart draws him to， and then<br >se this way with all his s~ength." Then， "To each the highest<br >en， your choice alone decides."<br >ntroduce this book with words from that book:<br >If there is any single evil in our culture which overtops all<br >others， it is this one of examining and measuring people in-<br >eluding ourselves all the time to see how far along they have<br >Come in school， in training， in business and professional life，<br >in maturity， in self-realization， in comparison with their<br >~rothers and sisters， their classmates， their colleagues and<br >~llow workers， or their neighbors. Even our spiritual life<br > .omes fully equipped， like Benjamin Franklin s chart of vir-<br >ues， with measuring rods to show whether we have learned<br >eceptive listening， realized our potential， grown in Christian<br >umility and the love of God， or advanced in mystical con-<br >，~mplation or saintly perfection.<br > The more we try to discover how far along we are and<br > hat progress we have made， the more we will get in our<br >wn way， The only true growth is that which comes through<br >10~at~oity， through a response so great and wholehearted<br >~at ，~e forget to be concerned about ourselves， (emphasis<br >tlQhted，to Manrice for his insightful writings as well as for<br >SS I Red as one of his postgraduate students for over<br >